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Coaching Tip: Use the Power of Self-Talk to Change Your Life

“The words ‘I am…’ are potent words; be careful what you hitch them to. The thing you’re claiming has a way of reaching back and claiming you.” – A.L. Kitselman

I’m sure that you’ve heard the phrases and know the philosophies of, “You are what you think you are” or, “You do what you think you will do.” But, do you really believe that? If you do believe that (like I do), do you really give your “thinking” the attention that it deserves? In my experience as a life coach, the answer to that question is almost always no.

Take a look back on the last month. Have there been days when you’ve performed at a higher level than normal, and then other days when you felt like a snail could out-perform you? How about looking back over the course of your life? Can you think of different periods in your life where you’ve been able to move mountains, and other periods where you could barely move a leaf? If so, what was the difference?

Most likely, the biggest difference between your most productive and least productive days was your attitude, or more specifically your attitude towards yourself and your abilities to accomplish and succeed. On the days that you were highly productive, you likely had the mindset of “I can do this” or “I am able to do anything”. Conversely, on the days that you were staring at the ceiling, your mindset was more like, “I can’t do anything right”, or “I am lazy”, or “I am failing again”. Does this sound familiar to you? If so, you are not alone! I believe that this happens to all of us.

The thoughts that we have about ourselves are powerful contributors to the outcomes of our motivations and goals, and ultimately have a huge impact in determining our successes and failures.

So, the question becomes, how do we make sure that we are allowing the right thoughts into our mind, and at the same time not allowing the wrong thoughts to creep in? One of the best ways to control your thinking is to use the tool of positive self-talk. Have you ever tried this? If so, have you ever “seriously” tried it for an extended period of time? If so, you know that it works! If not, now is the time. Are you ready to get started?

Six steps for using positive self-talk to change the way that you think and act.

Step 1: Make a thirty day commitmentAs in anything that is worth doing, making a commitment to seeing it through is the first and probably most important step. I challenge you to commit yourself to using these steps for introducing positive self-talk into your life for the next thirty days. I assure you that if you fully commit and follow-through for thirty days, you will see a remarkable change in not only your productivity, but in your life as a whole.

Step 2: Pick one area or behavior in your life that you most want to changeDecide which area or behavior in your life that making a positive change in would have the biggest impact on your success. Some examples might include “Productivity”, “Fitness”, and “Finances”.

Step 3: Create three positive affirmations / statements for the area of your life that you most want to changeTips for writing great positive affirmations:
• Use only strong positive words in your affirmations
• Write all affirmations in present tense (avoid past and future tense).
• Use the words “I am” or “I have” in each affirmation
• Keep your affirmations realistic
• Write simple and easy to remember affirmations

Examples of positive affirmations:
• I am an extraordinarily productive machine today!
• I am a focused wealth-building mastermind today!
• I have total control of my life today!
• I am building an awesome body with every choice I make and every step I take!
• I am a caring, loving, and thoughtful husband!

Step 4: Keep your affirmations in front of youIt is essential that you have your written positive affirmations by your side at all times. I suggest using 3×5 note cards, post it notes, bathroom mirrors, screen savers, etc. Use whatever you can (and as many different things as you can) to keep your affirmations handy.

Step 5: Read and repeat your affirmations constantly throughout the dayThe purpose of using positive affirmations is to re-program your mind with positive thoughts. This is accomplished through repetition. In order for positive affirmations to work, you must repeat the statements over and over and over throughout your day. This is why I instructed you to be creative and aggressive in writing your affirmations in Step 4.

Here is a funny little strategy that I like to use for remembering to repeat my affirmations throughout my day. One thing that I do every day is drink a lot of water. As a result, I make many trips to the bathroom. I have programmed myself to read my 3×5 note card every time that I use the bathroom. I know that may sound silly, but it works! Another good tip is to set an hourly reminder on your electronic calendar or phone. The point is to do whatever it takes to make sure you are reading your affirmations many times throughout the day, every day.

Step 6: Repeat the process
Once you have completed the first thirty day cycle with the first round of affirmations, begin to expand your list of affirmations. You may want to keep your originals on the list, or you may want to create completely new affirmations. Whatever you decide, make sure that you continue to follow the steps above, and most importantly commit to following through!

Using the power of self-talk and positive affirmations is an effective and proven way to dramatically change your life for the better. But, like everything else, it won’t do you any good if you don’t get started and stick to it. So, get started now and make a great positive change in your life!

Do you need help in creating powerful positive self-talk? Do you need help moving forward in your life? If so, I can help! Sign-up today for a free coaching session and we will get your life back on track together. Make a change today – You can do it!!
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